Two political figures dominate today’s headlines.
Elijah Cummings, US Representative who died today.
And, President Donald Trump.
The contrast between the two could not be more stark.
Both in backgrounds and in vision for our country.
And, both will be remembered.
The only questions is “How and for what?”
The process of trying to understand Tuesday’s election of Donald Trump as President of the United States continues. As does the soul searching of those of us who find his election troubling on many, many levels. While there continues to be much to learn and to understand, this much seems clear. The demographic which elected him was a broad cross section of white America. (A designation many of us need to unpack and better understand.)
Those who voted for Trump did so for a whole range of reasons.
- Being forgotten and ignored by a political process and congress after congress which has been dysfunctional for at least the last eight years.
- Losing jobs that once sustained households and communities. Jobs, that no matter what is promised, are not coming back in the way hoped for or imagined.
- Because of fear of those who look different or who once dared not come out of the closet or whose religious beliefs and practices do not match their own.
- Because their image of a President does not include the possibility of a woman in that role.
There are more reasons, I am sure, but these stand out.
As I struggle to figure out my own what next, here are several small steps to start me on my way.
- I will continue to see and to work towards an understanding of community that looks more and more like the world God has entrusted to our care and keeping.
- I will continue to do my best to understand how racism continues to impact and influence so many structures in our communities and country. And, my role in that. And, our role in that. And, the church’s role in that.
- I will continue to reach out my hand to those whose expression of faith is different than my own. I will continue to try my best to be the Christian I believe God calls me to be, and through the example of my life encourage others to be the best Jew they can be. The best Muslim they can be. The best Buddhist they can be. And, together we will build a better tomorrow.
- I will do my best to model inclusivity with the deep conviction that all…ALL…bear the image and imprint of the Holy.
There will be more to do tomorrow, but today I can begin here.
Maybe we begin here.
With my saying I feel angry.
By both the words and the cavalier attitude on the recently released video of Donald Trump talking to Billy Bush about women. Besides the uproar it has created in presidential politics, the truth is those few minutes of video also reflect something deeper and more pervasive in our culture which we need to acknowledge and to name and to talk about and to come to grips with. Let me be clear, what I am asking you to think about with me this morning is not about politics. Or, more correctly, it is about much more than politics. It is about what happens everyday at school and in churches and at work and in the grocery store.
In addition to feeling overwhelmed by the video, I was also overwhelmed…
And angry and embarrassed and ashamed by some of the response to what was seen and said. I feel angry that, too easily, this attitude and this type of language is written off as locker room banter which it is not, but even if it was it would be wrong. I am embarrassed and ashamed by the way the complicated meaning and experience of forgiveness and repentance is being bantered around by fellow clergy and religious leaders who should know better. Their attitudes and comments only add to the long list of reasons so many shake their head and turn their back on a faith and a tradition which means so much to me and shapes so much of who I am and how I try to live.
But mostly, I am overwhelmed by the reality of the circumstances in which women and girls find themselves. And embarrassed and ashamed that while on one hand I realized it, on the other hand I really did not know in that I knew in my head, but not in my gut. Here is what I mean.
- A 2011 article in the New York Times reported that 1 in 5 women, 20%, have been victims of sexual assault.
- A February 2015 article in The Huffington Post reported that 1 in 3 women, ages 18-34, have been sexually harassed at work.
- A United Nations study found that in the United States 83% of girls 12-16 have experienced some form of sexual harassment either in person or online.
And, there is more.
In an NPR report One Tweet Unleashes A Torrent of Stories of Sexual Assault, writer Kelly Oxford shared her story of the first time she was sexually assaulted. She was 12, she said, when a man on a city bus grabbed her genitals and smiled. After she told her story, she invited other women to share their stories, as well. In the two days following, she received more than 13,000 tweets from other women sharing their experiences of sexual abuse or harassment, many of them doing so for the first time.
But it is not just about out there.
On a city bus or captured on a hot mic.
In response to the video and the ensuing whirlwind, on Friday, having never said anything about it before, a clergy colleague of mine shared how she was sexually assaulted at a church event. And on her blog, Jan Edmiston who is a Presbyterian minister and currently the co-Moderator of the Presbyterian Church’s General Assembly, wrote about sexual harassment in the church. Included in what she wrote was this: “I’ve been informally asking young clergywomen if men still make inappropriate comments to them and I hear a resounding yes.”
And, angry and embarrassed and ashamed.
Because, just going by statistics, it has happened to some of you.
And, to your mothers and sisters and wives and daughters.
As the Apostle Paul wrote, “In the face of all of this, what am I to say…”
Despite the knot in my stomach and the lump in my throat, here is what I believe.
I believe as human beings
As a church
We can be better and can do better.
We must be better and must do better.
Both wondering why this even needs to be said and also knowing why it needs to be said, Jim Wallis, of the Sojourners Community in Washington D.C. wrote:
“Women are human beings made in the image of God regardless of their relationship to a man. This isn’t a woman’s issue; it’s a human issue. Women don’t need protection from men; women need men to stop being predators, enables and bystanders.”
In response to our email exchange earlier in the week, Megan Hansen wrote this and posted it on our congregation’s Facebook page this morning and from it created the graphic for the front of the bulletin. Megan wrote:
Time to think about what really matters
What is true
What is good
What looks like the Kingdom of God
But when we leave this place,
We don’t always watch our words so carefully
They slip out
As if they don’t matter at all
Because we live in a world
Where it doesn’t seem to matter what we say
People say whatever they want
Jokes that aren’t funny
And it isn’t stopped
It is even defended
But our words do matter
They can hurt or they can heal
They can be true or they can cast lies as truth
They can build up or tear down
They can be full of love or full of hate
As we leave this place
Let us watch our words
Let us put more beauty into the world
To overwhelm the ugly
We, you and I, especially those of us who are male, need to stop being bystanders. As I said when I began, this is not about politics. It is about what women and girls, our wives and sisters and mothers and daughters, experience each and every day in our culture. And, I am sorry to say, that for far too long the church has been and continues to be complicit in creating and sustaining that culture. We are the ones who need to repent of that and to change our ways. In whatever way we can we are to stand strong on the side of what is honorable and just and faithful. We are to teach and defend and empower both our young women and our young men. And, we are to rebuke the lies and the language and the attitudes and the actions which demean and belittle and destroy.
While it has not always been easy, I have always believed that if you hear it or read it in the headlines in the news, we should be able to talk about it in this space. As I thought about the events of the last week I wondered about the possibility of getting our middle school youth and our high school youth together. Boys in one room. Girls in another. And show them the videotape and engage them in a conversation. And then to bring them together and to help them talk about expectations and image and respect and what they can do to support and to help and to care for each other. And, it is important for those of you who have children younger than mine to have the same conversation with your sons and your daughters. And, the rest of us, no matter what our age or the age of our children or grandchildren, need to have the very same conversation, as well.
Maybe the video is too much or the language too offensive, but the conversation is crucial. Let us figure out how to have it and what we might do so we can build up rather than tear down. So that our words and our actions and our very presence affirms the humanity and the dignity of each and every human being and we begin to live in ways which overwhelm the ugly, the untrue, the destructive with more love, more truth, more justice and more peace.
The conventions are now over and we can drop the word presumptive.
Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton are now officially the candidates of the two main political parties for President of the United States of America. As you would expect, the platform differences between the two parties on trade, taxation, health care, energy and environment, and gay marriage are significant. To be honest, I understand to the differences on the social justice issues better than I understand the economic/taxation/budgetary differences.
But, after watching and listening and reading reactions to the two conventions there is one other difference which strikes me. While both candidates and campaigns are going to highlight the worst about the other and do all they can to tell us the other is unfit to be President, intentionally or unintentionally the general tone/message of the two conventions leaves us with another question: Are we, as a nation, going to be motivated more by our fears or our hopes?
Over the next several months, it will be interesting to see how we decide to answer this question.
Here is the problem.
With last night’s primary win in Indiana and with both Ted Cruz and John Kasich bowing out of the race, Donald Trump now has a clear path to the Republican nomination to be President of the United States. He fought (bullied?) his way from then to now with outlandish statements, outright bigotry and racism and mocking anyone who stood in his path or spoke out against him. Now, instead of running for the nomination, he is running to be President. Listening to the radio today, one talk show host who claimed to know Trump, told listeners that much of what Trump said in the past was “just show” and that, if and when, he became President his tone would change.
That may be, but I don’t believe it.
But, even if he could or would change, the real damage has already been done.
His rhetoric and actions have given permission for others to speak and act like he has and they have no interest in changing. They have taken him at his word and are now following suit.
The genie is out of the bottle.
And, we are left to deal with the mess.
Like many of you, I have been both appalled and angered by the the rhetoric and irresponsibility of Donald Trump.
He demeans others.
He condones, even encourages, violence.
He deflects criticism by turning it into blame. Blaming anyone but himself.
Purposefully, I have resisted writing anything about it.
What prompted the change was not anything Mr. Trump did or said, but the above picture and quote which I saw and shared with a group of friends this morning. As I lived with those words today, I realized that besides not voting for him, one of the things I can do to counteract his bigotry is to intentionally be and act differently. To not let his words and actions ensnare me so that I respond in kind. The intentionality is as important as the action because it means I am paying attention to what I am doing and why I am doing it rather than just going through my daily routine.
So, this is what I resolve.
With the ferociousness of his hateful speech, I will do my best to treat others with respect. With the intensity of the jeers of the crowds who respond to what he says, I will do my best to speak kindly to others. As he says no to women and immigrants and those with disabilities, I will do my best to extend welcome and to say no to any hateful or harmful rhetoric which I hear.
I will do my best to act from the best of who I am and not from the worst of who he is.