As the debate rages on about what bathroom people who are transgender are to use, here is what I know. Or, what I think I know…in no particular order.
- Most of us have already used a bathroom with someone who was transgender.
- And, we never knew it.
- And, when they were in a bathroom with us, we did what we had come in to do and then walked out the door just like we have done every other time.
- Every public bathroom I have ever been in has individual stalls.
- Most locker rooms do as well.
Or, at least, have an area where accommodations can be made. - Most of us, in public places particularly, are private about our bathroom activity even when we are standing in a line of urinals.
- For most, if not all of us, figuring out this sexuality stuff is often hard.
And confusing. And awkward. And embarrassing. - Figuring out sexuality if you are gay or lesbian is even harder.
Not just for you on your own terms, but look around at how gays and lesbians are talked about and treated. Would you want to come out as gay having read or heard what others are saying and knowing how you might be treated? - If the above two points even come close to being true, then think of how exponentially harder it must be for someone who is transgendered. Not just figuring out who they are, but being strong enough and courageous enough and clear enough about that to make the transition and to face all the insults and abuse and public shaming.
- Is someone really going to go through all of that just to get a peek at someone of the opposite sex? Really?
- If our concern is really our daughter’s’ safety, then read this.
The risk is not from those who are transgender, but from boyfriends and relatives.
All of which leads me to ask:
What is the REALLY about?
Let’s talk about that.
And, if it is about our children’s safety, let’s talk about the things that matter.
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